Relationships - amusing when you detach the emotions for a moment and think about them. I'm mainly referring to long-term relationships. The basic objective - find someone who you can live with long term, who you share enough interests with that you enjoy doing things with them, someone who's different enough not to get on your nerves by knowing everything you do and having nothing left to share, and then of course there's the emotional & physical attraction.
Ok, so moving further info this... the reason this comes up.. I found someone with similar thoughs regarding being optimistic, yet realistic views, no regrets.
The only thing that brings up a flag is the age thing. If you assume that in general about 10-12 years around your age is socially acceptable for dating.. since I'm 27 that'd be about from 18 - 37 [yeah, I know 17... lets not go there].
The thing about this new relationship is that both mom & the kids are within dating range :P ..so anyway, she wants to consider being closer..
There are a few complications to this when you think of long-term...
1st off, she is living across the country from me - and her kids live over there - would it even be realistic (or fair?) to consider having her move? ...meanwhile I just bought a home that would need to be sold and i'd have to move away from my family and such to join her. If these are both unrealistic, then continuing to try to have a long-term relationship should be put on hold and we should just work on being good friends.
There really are no dislikes though without the one age piece that feels a bit awkward. Likes? There are many - lifestyle choices, someone who is RESPONSIBLE, someone who seems to enjoy their job (although obviously jobs aren't always enjoyable 100%, but she has pride in what she does and seems to enjoy it overall), she's funny, has decent taste in music, she's independant and seems she could be just as at home at a 5-star hotel or 7 course dinner on gold plates as she could be at a lazy-8 hotel & fast food - this all makes me happy.
Anyway, enough writing for now - back to other stuffs
Posted by Aaron at June 15, 2002 12:05 AMI have to admit that I am honestly surprised that you of all people have any hesitation about a potential partner's age. I am even more surprised since I have met the person in question.
Sweetie, you have to grab whomever makes you happy when you can, have them as long as you can, and enjoy. Age is something that, should you never find out, would have no effect, so why treat it as tho it does when you do know? You only live once.
As far as the fairness of asking her to move, as long as the offer is made with no pressure, there is never anything unfair in simply asking.
Posted by: Moonpuddle on June 15, 2002 12:59 AMYah, I know - although in previous instances, the mom & the child weren't both of dating age at the same time. I guess that's what freaks me out a bit more this time. I'm ok now - but since it was a thought at one point I figured I would include it with the post.
Posted by: Aaron on June 15, 2002 01:17 AMCall me a dirty old woman, but in my mind, as soon as a child is 18, both parent and child are always in "date range". :P What's the problem?
Sorry, just giving you shit, honest tho it was. When do you next meet up with the lovely lady?
Posted by: Moonpuddle on June 15, 2002 09:24 AM