Although I’ve already dealt with this in person, I still feel the need to blog about today. The initial plan was that a group of us would meet up and go visit an art exhibit. I was making sure that all of my errands were done this morning, got Java’s food, went by home depot, got lunch.. and then went back home and watched TV while waiting to hear when everyone got back in town from the morning festivities to go to this exhibit. Late in the afternoon I called the friend who was coordinating things and left a voicemail that I was curious when things would happen.
So, I get the call back later and hear that they went to the exhibit and were already having tea. This also begs the question, would I have even been contacted if I hadn’t actually called to find out what was going on. This incident by itself would be “annoying”, but there has been more to it recently. Yesterday, as an example, I mentioned that I needed food for Java and was invited along for other shopping (1 place was mentioned), 3 stores (2 stores and a resturant) later, the bird place was closed. Previous to that there are often times where we agree to meet at a time and I arrive to find out that nobody has told me that they were going to other stores before arriving and that they would be late. Also there have been times in the past where we had agreed to meet for certain items and I get a call later (after the event would have ended) saying that they decided to do something else (or I called them to find out what happened).
Usually I would attribute a few of these instances to a lack of preperation by my friends, however it’s getting to the point where I do need to eventually ask.. is it me? Am I asking too much to be informed if plans change, to have my needs considered when out shopping, to be punctual… or.. Am I “not fun” to hang around with and really need to re-evaluate asking to be involved. Is it too one sided where I ask to be involved more than others need my involvement?
========= UPDATED Jan 2nd, 2004 =======
All’s been good since, this was just a rant.. things are better 
I speak for me here. Dunno what anyone else thinks
Honestly, it just didn’t even cross my mind :/ I *totally* forgot until I saw your name on my phone. I wasn’t trying to be trite or rude on the phone, but I didn’t want to lie to you either - We just totally fucking forgot!
I hope it’s not internalized… it definately wasn’t anything intentional. I think just a set of circumstances. I forgot, D was still half-asleep, and Moon was stressed to hell & back when I initially talked to her. I’m pretty sure I would’ve been forgotten as well had I not actually brought up the idea yesterday
I do think to some extent though, from time to time shit like this is to be expected when we rely on a specific person (Moonie) to repeatedly plan/organize things. I should’ve taken the initiative but I just said, “Nah… Moonie will take care of organizing… like she always does”. Just food for thought - maybe we should have different people organize different events to make the responsibility more equitable.
But back on topic here…. Sorry man. I dunno what else to say :/ It was NOT anything personal
Or stated another way, NO damnit, it’s not you
December 28th, 2003, at 10:31 pm #As I was speaking to moon earlier, I don’t believe things like today to be “intentional” - she’s not mean like that, but the thought of “am I too demanding in my requests to be involved” does come up (even if it’s a subconcious version of “yes, you are”).. or if it’s just a matter of how we all deal with others, etc. I don’t think it’s just a moonie issue on this since we had actually spoken about this yesterday, I had understood her “involvement” as being the one we had to plan around, but not the one doing the planning.. although perhaps that misunderstanding itself was the problem (today).
Anyway, had to get it off my chest and rant for a min and find out what was up.. the only question I had forgotten to ask earlier was the “was it me” question which I figured I knew the answer to, but needed clarified once.
I’m thinking that this may be one of those rare times that I really differ in opinion or belief from the rest of the group as to how to relate to others. I know that moonie likes to go “against the grain” as it were along with D. This is one of those times that I feel the need to say something and find out if I was way off in my expectations.
From my point of view, there’s been a number of times that we (the group) have hung out and said “hey, lets meet up tomorrow about noon and do X Y Z” and then at 3pm I get tired of waiting and call to get told “oh, we went shopping and then did T R and S instead” or “we decided to not do X Y or Z today”.. when in my mind there should be a call, some form of notification. Same goes for being late to meet up (hence my recent being later than usual so that I’m not grossly early in comparison). It’s probably one of those “we’re just different people and do things differently” items, but it since it seems wrong to me, I’m starting to get upset about it occasionally. I realize that “each time” there have been extra circumstances, but by the same token, how many “each times” are there going to be…?
Anyway, enough ranting, I do believe that everyone here has the best intentions, just a matter of thought and acting on them.
..nothing like a good rant to help you get to sleep. Goodnight for now.
December 28th, 2003, at 11:56 pm #I wasn’t trying to invalidate anything you said - hope it wasn’t taken as such
I totally agree with you regarding being some place on time. I struggle with it for sure. I will make a better effort to be there when I say i’ll be there!
And vent away my friend
I’d much rather have your feelings be known about things so I know where you’re coming from.
December 29th, 2003, at 10:11 am #Spoke with moon earlier, we’re all on the same page at this point. I’ll not worry about interrupting things by calling earlier and meanwhile there will be an effort to let me know when plans change.. so all’s well that ends well.
..leaves the 1 remaining question at this point..
Who’s hosting New Years?
December 29th, 2003, at 1:15 pm #Unfortunately i’m out w/another sect this year for the eve, but I should be game if anything goes on during the actual day
December 29th, 2003, at 5:17 pm #Ok… so now that, in real life, we have this all ironed out, and have decided that our issues stem from foibles on both/all sides, can you at least post something here that makes us (or at least me
) seem like less of an asshole??? 
I love you, you over-sensitive poop.
January 2nd, 2004, at 9:22 pm #You’re not an asshole!
January 2nd, 2004, at 9:50 pm #